Monday, June 15, 2009

Waking up furious...

Have you ever had one of those mornings when you wake up...roll over...peacefully take a deep breath...and then as thoughts slowly start to filter into your waking get slightly annoyed...then ever so miffed...and then it all snowballs into outright anger? It's amazing to me that this can occur in the matter of minutes. Literally one second your taking a lovely deep breath...seemingly content that all is right with the world...but then reality stealthly yet quickly creeps on in. Annoying as hell I say!

Anyway...this morning was obviously one of those mornings. FURIOUS I say...FURIOUS.

My anger is directed at other people's perspective...or rather...their lack there of. So as my search for coherant thoughts...I began my research on the word PERSPECTIVE. I had to decide between 2 'definitions' as to which I would follow:

1. Perspective (cognitive), one's "point of view", the choice of a context for opinions, beliefs and experiences

2. Perspective (psychological), or wisdom

*actually there were a total of 5 to pick from...but for my current focus...pharmacoeconomics, literature and the way in which objects appear to the eye or in drawings just didn't apply :)

Basically doing an e-nee-me-nee-mi-nee-mo...I decided to follow:

Perspective (psychological), or wisdom
"knowledge, understanding, experience, discretion, and intuitive understanding, along with a capacity to apply these qualities well towards finding solutions to problems. In many traditions, the terms wisdom and intelligence have somewhat overlapping meanings; in others they are arranged hierarchically, with intelligence being necessary but not sufficient for wisdom."

A few words jumped off my computer screen: experience, intuitive understanding and solutions.

Experience ~~ I personally define 'experience' as learning by doing. It's how one gains experience. And in order to fully experience something one needs to absorb and grasp a concept or a lesson by DOING.

Intuitive Understanding ~~ I believe that everyone has Intuition...but what many people lack is how to understand what their intuition is trying to tell them. Where does it come from...mainly by experience. Your inner voice is saying "HEY...remember when you did this and that happened..." is related to DOING.

Solutions ~~ Do you want to solve whatever issue is at hand? or do you want to "ignore it so it will go away"? One's ability to solve problems or even their desire to solve problems is directly tied to DOING. Sitting around and yapping does nothing in creating solutions to problems. The only way to solve a problem is to get up and DO something.

So what does this all have to do with my furious mind this morning??? I'm furious with the LACK of Perspective that surrounds many of us. Meaning ~ I'm furious with the LACK of DOING.

If you want to get something done...DO IT. Don't sit and talk about it...and then in turn whine about what you haven't done. Bitch, moan and groan allllll you long as you DO. Otherwise...quite frankly...would you please SHUT THE FUCK UP!


  1. OMG!!! I couldn't agree with you more! Nothing annoys me more than sitting at a meeting that is 5x's longer than it needs to be while people discuss and bitch about things. I always want to say, "Hey people let's make a list, divide it up and spend this time doing things to solve this/get this thing off the ground!" But no, they just spend all of this precious time talking about it and then walk away with no plan to DO anything!!!

  2. Wow, I know what you mean. I guess the only bit that I could offer, from my own perspective and experience, is that you alone have the power to decide how another's inaction is going to affect you. This is what I love about blogging- it's a perfect arena for venting. But what an awful way to start your day! I hope this was cathartic, and you were able to proceed through your day with a smile. Thanks for the follow! : )

  3. Exactly! to both of you.. :)

    ...and "Mom" ~ cathartic is the best word to describe it :) Plus it stops me from confronting the 'offenders' head-on and allows me to take my deep breaths and re-gain my "power" as you put it so I can move on with my day! :o)

  4. I think the most frustrating part of this dilemma is the fact that us "DOERS" end up DOING for the non-doers.
    That is a fact and the non-doers know this.
    I am always the one that ends up DOING something about something because no-one else will motivate themselves to actually accomplish a task. And by cleaning up their mess, they learn that if they don't actually acquire responsibility to make the change, someone (like me) will get so frickin fed up with it, that I'll reluctantly take on and complete the said task just to shut them the F^$%^% up.
    I'm such a stupid altruist.....

  5. so true! My husband gets frustrated with me and actually asks me not to join committees and such because he knows that I'll just end up doing everything because other people just sit there like "not me" - and like u I get annoyed and just do it!!

    So not only are we DOERS - but we are ENABLERS too! :)